S- Stop trying to make everyone around happy!

Don’t chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard.
Will Smith

All our life we are taught to keep everyone around happy. To be kind and helpful. To do and live as per what people do and say. When someone wish to do something different than everyone goes against them why? Because they are not trying to do what is making others happy but what makes them happy and content. We easily label them selfish.

When we are told to keep everyone happy we are never told to what extent should one care about others? Till what extent should one try to keep everyone happy? Is it by sacrificing and compromising our own self worth?

To be honest we must always first inculcate in kids the feelings of self-love, self-worth and self-respect. Rather than trying to teach them to always live for others, how others want us to live, how everyone desires to live and act in situation, it’s better to teach them how and exactly when to get selfish and that being selfish at time is okay.

Rather than giving your whole self-worth and self to someone who won’t even care how you feel later in rough times, it’s better to get selfish when time comes and take your steps a back to fit into everyone’s good books.

It’s not necessary to do everything for the sake of someone else’s happiness because you got your own life. When we deeply love someone be it our family, friends anyone, obviously all selfless love is filled in our hearts, we are always ready to do anything for their happiness but at times even if you go to the moon and bring stars for them they are never going to get satisfied or happy because some people’s expectations just never ends.

There should be a healthy boundary between being selfless and selfish. You have one life to live why always think about what others think about you, will they love me if I do this, will this be enough for them? Why always think about others and live our life and be the way others wants us to live? If you are someone who do not live to please people why expect others to please you? Why expect others to do everything for you when you yourself are someone who will do things only as much as you can and in limit without compromising your wishes and life.

Stop living to please others, to keep everyone around happy, to be in everyone’s good books, because honestly, these very people will not stand by you when you need them, when you for once don’t wish to do what they want you to do, they will take you and your feelings for granted, will easily manipulate you and will know where exactly to hurt you. So rather, be good, but only with those who deserve and be good without compromising your own self-worth.