V- Value Yourself

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
 – Buddha

I have talked a lot about self-worth and self-love but is it enough? I don’t think so. Because the problem is we don’t learn self-love and self-worth in a day.

Life makes us realize that the love we are finding in this messy world, is already alive within us. We always want to fit in the crowd and so we do whatever we can to fit into the crowd so that we are not left alone. But in this process we forget to value ourselves. It is important to learn to value ourselves and learn self-love.

Often we label people who only think about themselves, who give themselves the first priority before others but selfishness which does not harm anyone else, is okay.

It is important to know when to love yourself, to value yourself because when we do that, we are automatically at a better place, we feel content and happy all the time even when life tries to test our patience we know and are aware this too shall pass. We look at life with a positive perspective and trust me it helps.

“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.”
– Robert Morley

Not everyday will be a good day, you will surely have days when you will have negative thoughts, or will doubt yourself but self-love and self-worth will come to remind you that it’s okay to feel this way, but don’t dwell on it for a long time.

I had this thing habit of giving too much importance to others before me and I have always fallen on my face. I give too much love and care to people who don’t even deserve at times. But I used to feel maybe that is just me, to be selfless and caring. But to be honest, I also felt that I was being taken for granted and that people just take advantage of my caring nature.

Lately, I have realized to draw line. People easily can come and pull you down but you do not have to let them do it. Start valuing yourself, start ti=o be grateful for little things in life and start to appreciate yourself.

Start to celebrate little happiness that you happen to come across, small steps towards your goals and success and which in return give you fruits, start to celebrate even without reasons like, just for a reason that today you are feeling positive and good so you wish to celebrate, today you had one bad experience but you came out of it so you wish to celebrate by having ice-cream and watching Netflix, or by reading a book you wishing to read since a very long time.

“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.”
– Brené Brown

Start to say no, when you know it’s only going to burden you more and don’t try to be helpful always, when you know you already have much to do, or you don’t wish to do just say no.

Stop comparing your self or your life with someone else, everyone on this earth is suffering through some kind of problems, just because they are posting happy pictures on social media does not mean they are happy. Some people have been through a lot, worked super hard and so they are having some better days and they deserve that. Everyone is different so why compare?

Start being your own best friend, your own hero.